Transform Your Inner Dialogue: Part 2

If you haven't already read Part 1 of this series, start here before reading on

Part 2: Reframing

Last week we focused on a few steps you can take to identify and disrupt your inner critic, that each one of us has lurking in our thoughts.  

By focusing on what our body is telling us, and taking steps to prioritize our needs, we are taking the first steps to shifting our thoughts.

Today, I want to take few steps further

Listen to the Stories

Your inner critic is stealthy, and over time the critics voice blends so well with your own it can be really hard to separate them

This week, take a moment and reflect on the stories you are hearing from your inner critic.

Anytime this week you have a negative emotion

 (frustration, anger, blame, guilt, etc..)

Take a few moments and ask yourself

What exactly am I feeling right now (name it)

What are the thoughts causing that emotion?

Reframe

A helpful tool to reframe your thoughts comes from Melissa Dahl, author of "Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness"

When you are having these self critical thoughts, 

ask yourself these 3 questions

1. How many other people have experienced this situation?

2. How would I respond if a friend brought these concerns to me?

3. How would a neutral observer view the situation?

Its can also be helpful to reset our expectations and embrace the idea of being good enough

"We tell ourselves so many stories.

Here's to making room for beautiful ones"

  ~ Morgan Harper Nichols

Until next week

Happy Adventuring!

Michelle